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Find Your Way Back^™

A Guided Conversation for Reconnection

Written by Choya Johnson, MPLC · Inner Visions Life Coaching

Part one

Before We Talk

Slow Down. Get Clear. Come Back With Intention.

Every couple has moments when something gets between them.

A misunderstanding. A harsh word. A disappointment. Something that wasn't said. Something that came out the wrong way. Or sometimes, you simply stop feeling connected.

The goal isn't to never have difficult moments.

The goal is to learn how to find your way back to each other when they happen.

What happened from my point of view?Describe the situation without building a case against your partner.What did I feel?Go beneath the first emotion if you can. Did you feel hurt? Dismissed? Unimportant? Lonely? Disrespected? Misunderstood? Rejected? Disappointed? Afraid? Unappreciated?What did I need in that moment?What were you hoping to receive from your partner?What was my part?This isn't about taking responsibility for everything that happened. It's about being honest about your contribution.What do I want now?Before talking, decide what you're trying to create.

Am I ready to understand my partner —
or am I only ready to prove my point?
Taking a break is okay.
Avoiding the conversation forever isn't.